Since the holy week is upon us, I'd like to have version 2.0 of myself wherein I'd improve in everything that I do and a huge task is to make people look at me in a different light. You see i grew up in a VERY VERY CONSERVATIVE FAMILY especially for me who's an only child of a single parent. Sometimes I wanna feel how it's like to have a loving family. A family that you can trust, open your problems and share your happiness. I'd like to be goofy and carefree under the sun coz my family will always be there for me. I wanna feel how it's like to be protected from harm and to be served my best interests. To be acknowledged of my achievements and downplay failures. To be given a chance to speak up rather than shut up. To look forward tomorrow and not digress & live in the past. To use someone's experience as a motivational tool for success. I've read before that people who discourage you to follow your dreams are those who abandoned theirs but I say people who push you into another direction want you to fulfill their dreams that they never tried to accomplish. People have the fight or flight syndrome well in my case i've been doing both. Fight in the sense make people believe in me and what I can do. To put their faith in me that I will be successful in everything that I do and I hope one day the family accepts and embraces my job as a DJ. Too much drama, stress, tension and negativity pulls me down and I would like to have a family that picks you up and not kick you when you're down. And for the past 4 years, I've been flight-ing. I would like to have a fun filled lunch everyday and a family day sunday. Yet i end up on a flight every sunday I'd be out on a dogwalk instead of spending it with family. Truth hurts but that's the tragedy reality. I want my happiness to be also their happiness and not be shared of miseries. I would like positivity that in every problem there's a solution. Whatever happens tomorrow is what we do today and if keep hurting each other in the past, nothing is accomplished. Everybody gets hurt, nobody wins. There is still hope for humans and they need not to look far for answers. All they have to do is look at my dog.
- Dogs live in the now. So live life today and forget the past. Always look forward to a beautiful future. Stop judging people just because they didn't follow your footsteps or made his own path.
- A dog is the only thing in this world that loves you more than they love themselves. Give unconditional love to your family. No but's and if's. Take the first step towards change and see how immediate the results are. Words if not used properly can cause pain and confrontations. Remember that it takes only one hurtful word for a person to have one year of misery.
- Love, love and love. Sure it's an everyday chore to clean up poop, walk and feeding but I never complained of it. If you love a person, take him/her for who he is. Stop complaining on what he has done throughout the years. It's not healthy for both of you and chances are you'd end up having a strained relationship.
- There is no evil dog, only a bad owner. Same goes to humans, there is no evil child only a bad parent. Discipline is only good when it's done the right way. A person pursuing a career other than socially acceptable professions such as being a doctor, lawyer or businessman can automatically be labeled as rebel. Remember that your children have minds of their own. Stop feeding your ego by thinking what others might think of your kids. Be proud of your kids no matter what. They might do things differently than you but that does not mean they're foregoing the road that leads to greatness.
- A dog is always happy to see you when you get home. Learn from that mantra. Stop asking where they've been or what've done. It only shows you don't trust them and their judgment from what's right and wrong at all. Even as parents, you still need to befriend your child.
- A dog doesn't care of you're rich or poor. Money is all about status. Sure it's nice to save up for the rainy days or buy the finer things in life but we often work so hard that we lose time for family. One of the reasons I love my job is the free time that I have with my kid. I don't care how much I earn, yes we have bills to pay and it's forever there but if we lose track of our child as they grow up, you can never go back to the time when he had his first teeth or had his graduation and even have his own family.
- Positivity is the key. You can teach your dogs lotsa tricks but it's how your reinforce their behavior that counts most. After a trick you can give them treats of punish them when they don't follow. We all experience that in life especially when getting a job and following what the family wants. Such that when we don't follow them, you'd be automatically labeled as a rebel. I really hate the emotionally blackmail aspect of it all. To make things worst, it's their so-called friends that they are always eager to please ends you suffering more. When the kapitbahay asks my family where i work or what i do for living, almost instantly expect a fight mode session in the household simply because they couldn't answer their pseudo friend's inquiry.
- Dogs only bite when provoked or threatened. Human too, we bite by fighting back especially when something hurtful and untrue is said against us. More often than not, people talk first and put up assumptions to their heads. When they get mad of course I'd reach. Bad move. coz that will infuriate them further. But just think instead of getting mad on why people react that way they do, why don't you ask yourself if you threw the first jab.
A person doesn't need to think or act like a dog coz that would be stupid and crazy at the same time. Just think on the good lessons that everyday life offers us. Just like what I've read before, Worrying is a waste of time as it keeps you busy by accomplishing nothing.
